Our first consultation was a bit overwelming. That agency wanted us to pay $15,000 up front, another $13,000 once matched with a birthmother, plus we would have to pay $3,000 for a home study, $8,000 to finalize the adoption, and they wanted up to $5,000 for the birth mother expenses. So when you add that all up it was going to cost about $44,000!!!!! I also found a website with other adoptive parents and asked a couple of them who used this particular agency and was told not to use them as they were not good people.
I contacted another agency but DH and I would have to be members of a church and be actively involved in that church. We couldn't meet that requirement.
So we are on to agency number 3 and will attend a free seminar on December 3rd. I am also considering looking into our local DSS to see about doing foster to adopt. I'm really not set on the child "having" to be a newborn. However, I'm not sure that I could handle a child that has problems because of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome or Drugs.
If anyone has any advice or information, I would love to hear it. We don't really know anyone that has done a domestic adoption. A few of our friends/family have told us that they can get us in contact with someone that has adopted but they have all done international. Some have even gone on a waiting list for China and waited 5 years! DH is already 40 and we don't want to wait that long! He's already a little apprehensive about becoming a parent because he is afraid that he'll be an older father. I try to quiet his fear because we've seen that quite a few of his classmates have just had children.
On a side note, AF was due around November 2nd but there is no sign yet. Well actually I had a few signs around that time that I thought she should arrive. Even had some slight spotting. I've taken two tests that came up BFN. I don't know if my body is just having a hard time adjusting after having two months of fertility drugs or if it is just the PCOS. Part of me wishes that it would just show up and quit giving me false hope! The other part of me thinks that maybe this is my reward for not being able to have children...that I don't have to deal with AF every month!!!