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10 February 2009
Women attracted to men that are "just not that into them" 
He's not asking you out... he's not calling you... he's not marrying you... he's disappeared on you. While many women might rationalize this behavior and hold out hope for a fairytale ending, it's more likely that "He's just not that into you." Now, a Loyola University relationship expert talks about why women pursue men that are just not that into them. "Many women believe that they will be able to change a man's mind and persuade him to live happily ever after with her," said Domeena Renshaw, director of the Loyola University Health System Sex Clinic. "However, women cannot change men. They can only change how they react to them in this scenario." Renshaw believes that low self-esteem may also be to blame for this phenomenon. "Women send signals that they do not value themselves, when they repeatedly engage in situations or relationships with men who are not interested," she explained.
Women also may make excuses for unclear behavior, because they feel strongly about these men and have not come to terms with the fact that their feelings are not mutual. "I encourage women to concentrate on finding happiness within themselves rather than waiting for men to call or commit," urged Renshaw. Society also encourages women to believe that their worth is measured by their ability to find and keep a man. Therefore, contends Renshaw, they ignore social customs, which say that males should pursue females. "If women can learn to empower themselves, give themselves due credit and know when to walk away from a dysfunctional situation or relationship, it will free them up to meet someone who is genuinely interested," said Renshaw. "We should learn from experience and understand that healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and recognition." Related:
Taking Men At Face Value
Learning To Love The Things You Hate
Relationships Source: Loyola University Health System
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