Q. I have been dating this girl for 5 months and talked about becoming serious. She said not yet, she thinks I still need to play and experience life but I really like her and think my life is crappy without her. I want her to be my serious girlfriend - what do I do?
A. I wish you had said your age because if you're quite young, your girlfriend could be giving you good advice. What I don't understand is if you've already been dating for 5 months, what else are you looking for? She obviously likes you so perhaps you're being a bit impatient. Getting engaged at this stage would be premature and if you push it, you might lose her altogether. Never say that your life is "crappy" without someone. It's your life and entirely your responsibility to make it good or otherwise. All you can ask of another person is to share it with you. Also, it's always good to have enjoyed your freedom before getting tied down. Focus on that, keep seeing the girl but don't attempt to tie the future down too firmly. Life has a way or tripping you up if you do that.
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