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 The Dating Doctor
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The Fussiness Factor
October 16, 2006
A little-known fact about the famous; "I've seen you around town, would you like to go to bed with me tonight?" psychological experiment (in which 75 percent of men agreed to immediate sex but only 50 percent agreed to a date) is that it was repeated later with reversed genders. Like the men, half the women agreed to a date. Only 6 percent, however, agreed to the shag. Furthermore, where many men expressed regret and suggested a rematch, the women generally sent the man off with a flea in his ear.
Obviously, this is going to have been influenced by many factors including, of course, the risks inherent in going off alone with a stranger, but it's not the only experiment done in the field. A survey in the 1990s - thirty-plus years after contraception finally turned sex into a pastime - asked 148 men and women how long it would take them to sleep with someone they fancied. It started off with five years, at which point pretty much everyone said they'd get it on. But as the time-frame shrank, women's willingness also shrank, where men's stayed very nearly the same. Get it down to an hour and most of the men were still up for it. Virtually none of the women were, though.
The same group was asked how many sexual partners they anticipated having, over the coming year and over their lifetime. Women, almost without exception, went for one over the year and a maximum of six until death. The men, meanwhile, wanted eighteen over a lifetime and - get this - six of them in the coming year. Which begs the question: if all these men get what they want, who on earth are they sleeping with?
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