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 Your Dreams
Are you convinced your dreams are trying to tell you something? If you think there's a message hidden in your dreams then Charmaine may be able to help you interpret it. She provides dream analysis for a number of newspapers and magazines and is now helping Aphrodite's readers understand their dreams. You can email Charmaine for help and read her weekly interpretations here.
Can't Let Go
January 31, 2012
Q. I had a dream last night that I got an email from my ex boyfriend telling me that I'm very important to him, those were his exact words to me in my dream. It has been 6 months since we broke up and I'm having trouble moving on, I still cry every day over him. He is truly the love of my life. I know he hasn't dated anyone since the break up; he's just throwing himself into his work. The break up was my fault because I did some things I'm not proud of and Jamie is having trouble dealing with it (I'm a hoarder). Thank you again for reading my email.
A. Your dream may very well be wishful thinking. As you still love this guy, your dream is expressing the wish that he feels the same. It's dangerous to take dream messages too literally but in this case, it may very well be the truth. Are you still in touch with him? If you acknowledge that the break-up was your fault, can't you make a commitment to change and try to get him back? We're all allowed to make mistakes but if we're truly sorry, we should be allowed a second chance. If you feel there's no chance of reconciling, best to move on by letting go of the past, including your failings. But if the dream is trying to alert you to a possibility for a future with this guy, then take note and give it a go.
Mom Dying
January 17, 2012
Q. I'm not sure if you will answer but I hope you will. I have recently had a dream that my mum passed away. It was weird because we were having a family party and the next morning she was gone. I didn't realize this until I tried to call her and my brother and sister just stayed quiet. I then woke up as if I was asleep and a girl that is sort of my friend was saying she had a baby and was happy and what she named him and I remembered my mother started to cry. We walked out of the room and returned shortly and on my wall, my mother wrote to me saying everything will be fine and to do all that I want to dream big and do. She said "I love you," on the wall. I didn't understand in my dream and I woke up crying with tears running down my face. I hope this doesn't mean anything bad because I would never want anything to happen to my mum.
A. I'm not sure why you're interpreting something negative in this dream. Death rarely means that literally in dreams. It's more about change and the ending of a period. Does this apply to your mum's life at present? Have there been any particular family problems recently? Your siblings appear in the dream - perhaps they know something you don't? You could ask them. Being aware of waking up in a dream means you are dreaming lucidly, that is, you know you're dreaming. Your mother appeared again after this and you got happy news about your friend so that pretty much cancels any negative meaning. The best part is all the loving messages from your mum. You woke up crying because of the emotion of the dream. You really have nothing to worry about.
Marrying An Older Guy
January 3, 2012
Q. A couple days ago, I had a dream that I was getting married to this man. Not only have I never had a boyfriend but I am only 15. I was so confused that, all my friends and family were at my "wedding" and the weirdest part about this dream was that I did not know who this man was and he was much older than me, maybe late 40's. I was crying in my dream, begging my mum to cancel my wedding. I kept on telling everyone that I did not know who this man was I was supposed to marry and everyone just looked at me like I was crazy and told me I was crazy and that I have known him for years. I woke up the first time this dream happened which was last week but last night I had the same kind of dream that I was marrying this man I didn't know!!! I'm not sure if it was the same or a different man but in this dream, the wedding was happening in a couple hours and my friends and family were getting ready for it. I was once again crying because I thought I was too young and that I didn't know who this man was. I was confiding to my mum and she told me she could stop the wedding and then I was so relieved! I have never had a recurring dream in my life before!! What does all this mean!?!?
A. Even at 15, a girl's mind can be preoccupied with thoughts of a future wedding, consciously or unconsciously. Maybe this dream is simply reflecting that. However, it could just as easily not be about a wedding at all. Recurring dreams have urgent messages but as always, the events that you see may be just symbolic. What I think this dream means is that you're being forced to do something in your waking life. It could be an uncomfortable situation at school, at home or within your family. The dream is probably recurring because there's a lot of emotional intensity around it. This tells me that you're very anxious about whatever's happening. If you could resolve the problem, the dreams will stop. It might be simply a matter of being honest about how you feel.
Man Of My Dreams In My Dreams
December 7, 2011
Q. I keep having these dreams of the same man. I have never met him or seen him ever in my life, only in my dreams. They are all different but he is always there. In my dreams, he is beautiful. He looks heaven sent. We have made love and spend every moment together. When I'm awake, I wish to sleep just so I can see him. I've never felt so
happy. I can't help but wonder who he is. The last dream I had of him, I finally asked for his name and he said Zak. It's been a week now and he hasn't come back. I feel so sad. Could I have fallen in love with someone of my dreams? Will I ever meet him? Will this wondering who he is ever be resolved?
A. In something called Dream Incubation, you can create a dream lover and meet him in your dreams anytime. Without consciously deciding to do this, it seems to be precisely what you've achieved. Could it be answering the longing of your heart? If you wish something strongly enough, you can make it happen. Have you been lonely? Have you wished for a boyfriend? It's great that he's appeared in your dreams but I'd rather see you with a real man. Be careful you don't mistake fantasy for reality. It's important that you stay grounded in your waking life even though your dreamlife might seem more attractive at present. Don't be sad or fret about all this. It is possible that this is a real man that you will in fact meet, especially as he offered you a name but don't wait for it. People who believe in reincarnation would suggest that you knew this guy in another lifetime. If the dreams have stopped, it could be because they've achieved their purpose and you don't need them anymore. If he does appear again, why not ask him if he's real, if he's from the past or the future. You can't really love a fantasy. Trust that it's right no matter how it turns out, and believe in your own future. Get on and live your life. Maybe your dream lover - or a flesh-and-blood one - will, indeed, arrive.
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