Hey guys, I've actually used this forum for years but I want to change my name as i think it has now become a nickname that's too obvious for people who know me in real life and I'd rather remain annonymous. I really need some help. My long term bf has mentioned he wanted to try anal with me a little while back and I flipped out. I don't know if there's something wrong with me but the idea terrifies me. I have tried it drunk once with an ex but had no self respect for myself then. Anyway I thought the idea had gone away but it's come back up again and I just don't know what to do.It seems to be interferring with our sex life now. I wish I weren't so apprehensive. I love him and want to please him. But i feel offended. Like it would be degrading for me. He's experienced this with his past gfs and so now it's like something I'm holding out on him. He's not pressuring me but has also stressed that it's not something he wants to go without for the rest of his life. I'm angry and sad and hurting because I could see myself spending my life with this man. But if i dont' do it for the right reasons it could ruin us anyway. I guess my main question is. Can anal sex ever be loving? (and don't think this has ANYTHING to do with homosexuals because I'm sure it is for the guys, and my sisters a lesbian and I have no problem with that!) But for a heterosexual couple could it be loving, making love or is more just a 'sex' thing? And one more thing that gets to me is what's wrong with my pussy that he feels the need to stick it up my ass?!