hi there, I am opening this new subject. *RomanticMan* wrote a couple of days ago: "What happened to this site? Used to be that sex was discussed on here. And people were detailed about it. Now it's like be careful what you say. Come on folks! Lets talk about sex." I know is true. On 7/25 I opened =Boys and Girls, How do you clean after sex?=,,,,, one sensible reply. On the recent =Analingus for women= I wrote on 08/17: "most of you girls talk about doing it with "upmost cleanliness" or after "fresh-out-the-shower kind of thing". Really? so you shower the anus area that is visible and then let your partner's tongue play ball inside? Please, don't be shy to provide methods of cleaning that can be more helpful to others. I do not do it because of those lingering unanswered doubts. And the thing here is that if I learn to give myself the best possible cleanup job, I'd need to teach and demand of my DH to do the same or better." I thought it was important for me to clarify the mechanics of their "shower cleanup" or whatever, I dread to engage in Analingus because the only time my anus is touched is at the toilet and can't figure out how many others, apparently, are so sure they are cleansed and their partners too. In the context of SEX conversation/education/enhancement/enjoyment, is "doing it right and healthy" NOT that important to everyone? So, maybe we throw the old pages out the window and open a new one: Basically, cleanup for Analingus is the same as cleaning for Anal (I haven't done it yet, this and many other fears). Can you hundreds of anus lovers explain in great detail the ways you (or your partner) physically clean the area in and out to get your penis, finger, dildo or tongue in there with confidence? I find this very erotic if I could come to terms with the hygiene issues that paralyzes me. I have my doubts, but at least I would have a mental crouch to try and see. ===================== Piggyback feedback for the ADF administrators, please one of you forward this part to the right persons, thanks. 1 I haven’t found a place where I can learn how to interact with the site, how to fully utilize it like when I made a question about if it was possible to conduct surveys, etc. Got 2 clarifications, great, but, is there an ADF101 .PDF file someplace? 2. I must be thick, but it is not very intuitive to do things like quote sections of posts as reference when you provide feedback in a reply, which I see a lot done,,,, Any help to learn to navigate this site more easily and with less time spent will be appreciated. Thanks.